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How to balance work and life

By: Nehemie

For the past two years, I couldn’t blog because I was busy with other agendas. When I wanted to take a time for myself and think, something urgent popped up from nowhere and forced me to intervene immediately. As a writer, I felt bad to spend a month without a new post on my blog or even a conversation about the environment or development with a friend.

But as I couldn’t be two people in one person, I gave up my writing and embraced the new adventures. That’s how I could earn a living, so I didn’t have a choice, like many of you. However, things were boiling bad inside my heart. I thought I was stupid every time I went to bed as I looked at the ceiling wondering why society would make me ruin my own joy just for the sake of a few bucks.

When I slept, I wished the night could be longer, maybe something like an eclipse, for me to write a paragraph. In the morning, I wished it rained heavily so that no one goes to work that day, for me to write the second paragraph. It was a moment of weakness, pretending, contradiction and low productivity.

But as days went on, I acknowledged my weaknesses as a means to become strong again. From people’s advice and reflection, I realized there is no such a thing as society ruining my joy. I had to learn how to master life on my island as well as in the crowd.  When I was able to do that, I became free and was empowered to fulfill my personal interests while respecting the society’s must-do rules.

Why we are not good at being ourselves

We do our best to make positive things happen in our lives and others’ although we’re not able to maintain that momentum for a long time without messing up. For us to avoid risk and keep our benefits, we pretend to be strong and perfect in front of others.

At work, we smile to everyone and say we’re okay even when the job is intense. At the parties, we dance and shout to show a sense of togetherness with our colleagues and the public. At the church, we close our eyes and bow down even when we don’t mean it.

To keep our jobs secure, we pretend and contradict ourselves every day through the words we say and the actions we do. It’s as if being ourselves is abnormal. In other words, money has made us fail to be our sustainable selves.

How to find balance

There is no single formula to find balance for your life and work. It is something we all struggle with. As the world’s innovation advances, we usually find ourselves inexperienced and in constant need of money for new products and services.

Generally, everyone has been through some uncomfortable times while trying to meet their boss’s needs in a way that satisfies them personally. And because we naturally want to prove ourselves to others for profit, we can’t fight the balance battle easily.

Here are a few tricks that I practiced before getting back to my writing feet. My intention is that these tricks help you turn your overloaded table into a manageable workload that allows you to do what you’re incapable of doing now. However, there is no true or wrong answer to any of those tricks. Anyone can come up with theirs but I found them useful as long as money is concerned.

What if we were able to say no to what bothers us and pursue our true callings fearlessly? What if money was the source of our balance;  not the cause of imbalance as it is for many of us today? My next post is about the fear of failure and how to fight it. Stay in touch!